Enmity and Gratitude

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六亲论十、恩怨

两意情通中有媒，虽然遥立意寻追；有情却被人离间，怨起恩中死不灰。

原注，喜神合神，两情相通，又有人引用生化，如有媒矣，虽是隔远分立，其情自相和好，则有恩而地怨，合神喜神虽有情，而忌神离间，求合不得，终身多怨。至于可憎之神，远之为妙；可爱之神，近之尤切。又有一般邂逅相逢者，得之不胜其乐；私情偷合者，去之亦足为奇。

任氏曰：恩怨者，喜忌也。日主所喜之神远，得合神化而近之也。所谓两意情通，如中有媒矣；喜神远隔，得旁神引能而相和好，则有恩而无怨矣。只有闲神忌神而无喜神，得闲神忌神合化喜神，所谓邂逅相逢也。喜神远隔，与日主虽有情，被闲神忌神隔绝，日主与喜神各不能顾，得闲神忌神合会，化作喜神，谓私情牵合也。更为有情，喜神与日主紧贴，可谓无情，遇合化为忌神，喜神与日主虽不紧贴，却有情于日主，中有忌神隔占，或喜神与闲神合助忌神，如被人离间，以恩为怨，死不灰心，如日主喜丙火在时干，月透壬水为忌，如年干丁火合壬化木，不特去干乙木合庚金而近之，此闲神化为喜神，如中有媒矣，日主喜火，局内无火，反有癸水之忌，得戊土，合癸水，化其为喜神，谓解逅相逢也；日主喜金，惟年支坐酉，与日主远隔，日主坐巳，忌神紧贴，得丑支会局，以成金之喜神，谓私情牵合也。余可类推。

丁酉甲辰戊戌戊午
癸卯壬寅辛丑庚子己亥戊戌

此重重厚土，甲木退气，不能疏土，则土情必要年支酉金，发泄菁华。金逢火，盖其意亦欲日主之生，虽然远隔，两意情能，喜辰酉合而近之，如中有媒矣。初运癸卯壬寅，离间喜神，功名蹭蹬。困苦刑伤；辛丑运中，晦火会金入泮，连登科甲；庚子己亥戊戌，西北土金之地，仕至尚书。

丁酉乙巳丁丑丙午
甲辰癸卯壬寅辛丑庚子己亥

丁火生于巳月午时，比劫并旺，又逢木助，其势猛烈，年支酉金，本日主之所喜，遥隔远列，又被丁火盖之，巳火劫之，似乎无情。最喜坐下丑土，烈火逢湿土，则成生育慈爱之心，邀己酉合成金，归之库内，其情似相和好，不特财来就我，又能泄火吐秀，故能发甲，仕至藩臬，名利双全。

癸酉戊午丙辰甲午
丁巳丙辰乙卯甲寅癸丑壬子

丙火生于午月时，旺可知矣。一点癸水，本不相浊，戊土合之，又助火之烈；年支酉金，本有情与辰合，又被午火离间，求合不得，年谓怨起恩中也。兼之运走东南火木之地，一生只刑伤破耗，并无财喜之事。克二妻七子，遭回禄四次，至寅运而亡.

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📖 Holistic Interpretation

The "Enmity and Gratitude" chapter in Di Tian Sui reveals the dynamic interplay between Favorable Gods and Adverse Gods in a Bazi chart:

If a Favorable God is distant from the Day Master but facilitated by a Combining God (like a matchmaker bridging connections), distance turns to proximity, adversaries become allies, embodying "gratitude";
If a Favorable God is estranged by an Adverse God (akin to a troublemaker sowing discord), gratitude turns to enmity, creating lifelong strife;
The resolution lies in: distancing detestable forces (Adverse Gods) and drawing close to desirable ones (Favorable Gods), with the added strategy of transforming adversarial energies into support through combinations.

🧩 Case Analysis and Component Tags

Case 1: Male Chart Ding-You, Jia-Chen, Wu-Xu, Wu-Wu

This chart features thick earth burying wood, relying solely on the You metal in the year branch to drain the earth's essence 🔥→⛰. Early water-wood luck cycles (Gui-Mao, Ren-Yin) disrupt the metal-earth synergy, leading to career struggles; the Xin-Chou cycle (damp earth generating metal 🌱→💰) brings consecutive exam successes; in later years, northwest metal-earth regions elevate him to Minister of Personnel.

Modern Interpretation:

Resource Misalignment Phase (Early Years): Talent suppressed by environment (wood fails to loosen earth), requiring patience and accumulation;
Mentor Activation Phase (Midlife): Xin-Chou cycle’s damp earth mediates, teamwork (earth generates metal) unlocks potential;
Peak Achievement Phase (Later Years): Metal-earth synergy aligns with managerial systems, securing executive authority.

Case 2: Male Chart Ding-You, Yi-Si, Ding-Chou, Bing-Wu

Fierce fire dominance (🔥×3) seemingly isolates the You metal in the year branch. The Chou earth in the day branch 🌱 ingeniously vents fire to nurture metal, further forming a Si-You-Chou metal combination, converting adversity into advantage, achieving fame and wealth.

Contemporary Insight:

Pivotal Transformation: Damp earth (Chou) acts as a crisis buffer, turning conflict (fire melts metal) into collaboration (earth generates metal);
Core Competency: Fiery brilliance (charismatic expression) + metal-as-treasured resource (strategic integration), ideal for creative leadership roles.

Case 3: Male Chart Gui-You, Wu-Wu, Bing-Chen, Jia-Wu

Scorching fire and parched earth (🔥×3) dominate; the lone Gui water is transformed into fire by Wu earth, while You metal’s attempt to nourish water is severed by Wu fire 🌊❌. No moderating elements result in lifelong hardship.

Modern Warning:

Systemic Imbalance: Adverse Gods (fire/earth) run rampant, resources (metal/water) blocked → prone to failed investments/collaborations;
Avoidance Strategy: Steer clear of fire-aligned industries (e.g., high-temperature sectors); seek fluid roles (water symbolism) to mitigate stress.

� Core Insights

Fundamental Concept 💡

Dynamic Game Theory: No absolute "enemies" in Bazi—Adverse Gods can be transformed into allies (e.g., Case 2’s Chou earth mediating fire and metal). Conversely, estranged Favorable Gods become liabilities (e.g., Case 3’s You metal severed by Wu fire).

Modern Parallels 🌟

Interpersonal Metaphors:
- "Matchmaker" = intermediaries/platforms; "Adverse God estrangement" = toxic competition;
- Resolution requires: ① Identifying root conflicts ② Introducing third-party mediators (e.g., Case 1’s Chen-You combination).
Career Guidance:

Chart Traits Ideal Fit Risks to Avoid

Uncontrolled fire Arts, Digital sectors Heavy-asset investments

Earth-metal synergy Finance, Supply Chain High-risk startups

Chart Traits	Ideal Fit	Risks to Avoid
Uncontrolled fire	Arts, Digital sectors	Heavy-asset investments
Earth-metal synergy	Finance, Supply Chain	High-risk startups

Practical Toolkit ⚡

Decision-Making Framework:
1. Facing obstacles: Seek "Combining Gods" (cross-sector resources/mediators);
2. Resource blockage: Deploy "bridge elements" (e.g., Case 2’s Chou earth);
3. Irreconcilable Adverse Gods: Cut losses early (e.g., Case 3’s fire-avoidance).

Philosophical Reflection 🤔

Enmity and gratitude reflect blocked or liberated energy flows. Life’s challenges often stem from "hijacked favors" (misaligned resources) or "tyrannical adversaries" (escalated conflicts). The solution isn’t eradication but redirection—like hydraulic engineering diverting floods into irrigation.

📚 Related Knowledge

Key Concepts:
- "Combination-Transformation" = elemental energy recombination (e.g., Ding-Ren → wood, Chen-You → metal);
- "Energy Bridging" = introducing mediators to resolve clashes (e.g., fire bridging wood-earth conflict).
Further Reading:
- Yuan Hai Zi Ping: On Combinations—detailed mechanics;
- Qiong Tong Bao Jian: Moderating Gods—extreme case resolutions.
Contemporary Studies:
Taiwanese scholar Chen Pinhong’s Destiny and Decision Psychology notes: Bazi’s adversarial transformation logic mirrors crisis management’s "stress conversion model."

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六亲论 十、恩怨

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